The Hidden Struggle: Recognising Perinatal Anxiety and Depression in Fathers

Recognising Perinatal Anxiety and Depression in Fathers: A Growing Concern

Trent Gallucci, a 31-year-old father from Sydney, recalls feeling a sense of emptiness shortly after the birth of his first son in June 2021. Despite the joy of becoming a father, he says, "I just felt empty." Gallucci's experience is not unique, as perinatal anxiety and depression affect a significant number of fathers, often going unrecognised and untreated.

Understanding Perinatal Anxiety and Depression in Fathers

Danya McStein, a psychologist and clinical team manager for Gidget Foundation Australia, notes that while perinatal depression and anxiety are less common in men, they are still "relatively common." Fathers or non-birthing parents can experience perinatal depression and anxiety during pregnancy or after the baby's arrival.

McStein says, "If you have postnatal depression, your mood is usually affected, while if you have postnatal anxiety, you will experience feelings of worry or fear that are difficult to control," according to the Pregnancy, Birth and Baby website, operated by Healthdirect.

Symptoms and Warning Signs

McStein highlights that symptoms of depression in men can be quite different to those experienced by women. Some common signs include a change in mood over a period, low mood, and feeling less motivated. However, she notes that these symptoms can be easily mistaken for other conditions, such as sleep deprivation.

Gallucci's experience with perinatal depression was marked by feelings of guilt, fear, and anger. He says, "I'm quite a level-headed person and … little things upset me more than what they usually would."

Breaking the Stigma and Seeking Help

Associate Professor Jacqui Macdonald from Deakin University emphasises the importance of social connection and early intervention in addressing perinatal anxiety and depression. She suggests that fathers can reach out to their doctor or fill out online screening questionnaires to assess their mental health.

McStein stresses that depression and anxiety are "very treatable" and encourages fathers to seek help without hesitation. Gallucci, who accessed counselling through the Gidget Foundation, says, "I felt like I was being selfish and a bit of a failure as a father to reach out." However, he notes that acknowledging and accessing help is crucial and that attitudes are changing.

For those struggling with perinatal anxiety and depression, there are resources available. Connecting with fathers' groups and mental health services, such as Beyond Blue, can provide support and guidance.